When we see a friend (or even a stranger) in crisis or pain, most of us are pretty good at extending our compassion. But when we're having a hard time in our own lives, too often we neglect to give that same kindness to ourselves. What are we missing in these moments? Self-compassion. This often-overlooked skill turns out to have some really surprising benefits: It makes us less anxious, depressed, and self-critical—and more confident, productive, supportive of others, and even physically health